Do you want to live in a thriving, conscious community that values people above profit? Does living and working with people who also value spiritual growth and awakening sound appealing? When it comes to the nitty gritty reality of every day life, people and personalities, we need seriously effective tools to help integrate our spiritual ideals with the real world. Our work teaching the path of awakening occurs in community. To share this love and learning, we’ve compiled five tips for building, growing and thriving in conscious community. We hope this helps you grow your own conscious community (or come and check out our conscious retreat centre):
Five Tips for Building Conscious Community:
1. Consciously choose to act from a place of intention. The most effective starting point for a partnership or community is a place of conscious and shared intention. Without intention, we automatically default to ‘bumbling along’. To make sure you don’t default to what’s comfortable or the status quo, have a conversation with your partnership, team or community members and make a commitment together to be intentional in the choices you make.
2. Every person is their own country. In other words, we don’t all speak the same language or have the same views about how we should work/live/love together. When we remember this we can learn to treat each other with respect and work on learning each other’s ‘foreign languages’ (rather than just getting mad when someone doesn’t see things the way you do). Watch out for those moments when you automatically expect someone to have the same thoughts, opinions or to act the same way you do and don’t take it personally when they express differing or contrary opinions.
3. Lets face it, all of our egos want control and power. Our ego was built and shaped as a response to rejection. Around the age of two the child realizes it is ‘separate’ from the mother. This separation is felt as painful rejection and a loss of unity. From then on the ego’s main purpose is to manipulate and control and secure power, subtly or blatantly. This is in order to get what we want, which is to feel secure and protect against feeling that same deeply painful hurt all over again. If we can acknowledge that this is our conditioning, we can start to see this when it’s in play, and not let it run blindly unchecked. Next time you are internally plotting out the best strategy to get what you want, check in with yourself and simply notice that this is what you are doing. It doesn’t mean you are necessarily doing anything wrong, but being aware and honest with yourself will mean that you have better leverage to make the choice that is best for the group, which may be the same or different from your current plans.
4. Happiness can’t arise for me if it doesn’t arise for you. We are all in this together. Even if you’re doing great, if your friends, partners or colleagues are not, you can’t be completely happy. Thus, working together for the benefit of all is the surest way to ensure greater happiness for yourself and others. The deepest joy happens when we bring real benefit to the lives of others.
5. A conscious, intentional community needs a powerful and over-arching vision. Being in community is inevitably difficult at times. A powerful, shared vision creates the glue that holds us together when our egos want to fight, run or avoid. When we’re struggling, it’s natural to sink into our own likes, dislikes or hurt feelings. A shared vision gives us something bigger and more important to lean on in challenging times. We hope you find these helpful. The more conscious communities there are in the world, the better–for everyone and everything. If you’d like to join us in conscious community or simply find out more about Planet Dharma, sign up to our mailing list. We also recommend you view our upcoming retreats and courses. Did you enjoy and benefit from this content? Consider supporting the teachers by making a gift of Dāna today.